A Nigerian wedding accessories vendor, Osuchukwu Jane Ezeakolam, has revealed that she refunded a bride after she called off her wedding three weeks to the ceremony due to her fiancé’s lack of financial support.
According to Jane, the lady booked a dress and made full payment after fixing the wedding date.
However, she didn’t pick up the gown on the wedding week and all efforts to contact her proved abortive as her number was switched off.
A month later, the woman called to inform her that she canceled the wedding because her fiancé refused to contribute a dime to expenses and each time she reminded him of some of the items like food and drinks, he told her to go ahead and pay for them.
Writing further, the vendor advised women not to fund their own wedding for any reason whatsoever.
“This my bride came and booked her wedding gown .. made her payment and the date was already fixed. I wrote down the date cos we don’t book wedding gowns without an accurate wedding date,” she wrote in a Facebook post on September 17.
But she said as time goes on … the husband refused to do the necessary things .. He left everything for her to carter .. at a point she has already paid part payment to the decoration woman .. part payment to cake, part payment for hall.
The man refused to pay a dime for anything .. when the list for drinks and food came out .. the man told the lady to pay too .. hmm.
That was why she had to open up to her family to tell them what was happening.. He was supposed to come see the family of the lady but no .. nothing nothing .. it’s almost 3 weeks to the wedding date .. He has not come to see her family.
The lady said she cried .. wept .. the man was just silent.. The lady summoned the courage and called off the wedding … she said lo and behold .. the man till today didn’t ask her why she called off the wedding .. the man went his way .. she went her way
I said there is nothing I will not see in this life ooo .. her marriage date was close .. Tuesday to her wedding cos we call our brides on Tuesday and Wednesday of their wedding week to come carry their gown to avoid being on the road Thursday Friday to their wedding.. we called her number was switched off .. others came and carried their wedding gown that week except her .. her number was switched off.
After one month .. she summoned the courage and called .. she told me what happened I was speechless.. I told her to send her account number to refund her of the money she deposited with us .. she was speechless.. she said all the people she paid advance payment refused giving her back her money .. I told her I’m Different.. I’m not them. She sent her acct details and I refunded her, her 80k .. she was happy
My Counsel. I don’t know but this is my little advice to young ladies about to get married .. except this man is walking at the same pace as you .. Never you fund your own wedding.. Never you bring money to pay your own bride price .. Ekere oru Eke .. I have seen a man that still mocks the wife till today that she was desperate to marry him that’s why she gave him money to pay her bride price
Is even better he borrows the money elsewhere and comes and marry you if he does not have the money, than you giving him money to come and pay for your bride price
This was the exact situation of this my bride ..She was doing too much .. and my question again to Men is what do they really want ??? .. you get a supportive wife you say she’s doing too much .. you get a troublesome wife .. wahala promax .. what do you want.
Ladies you can support your hubby to be for wedding preparations.. but know when YOU ARE DOING TOO MUCH .. cos he will tell you one day that you are doing too much.