It is not money

you will be shocked what people have to say when asked some certain questions
And so, if you are presently on this platform and you believe that all you need to be ready or all makes up YOU as a Man is only your money, I am sorry…..to start with, if that is your mentality, you are not a man in the first place
What makes up a Man up is much more than that….

Having money is good and in facts it is Basic!

But you see, when it comes to the reality of what makes up a man, Money fall under the secondary category
The reasonable women out there know this fact. They know that what makes you a man is wey beyond that….

Unfortunately, our society seems to be tilted towards the admission of money as the first criteria of what makes up a man.

So, *What Makes Up a Man and what even tells us that a man is fit and ready for the institution of marriage?

Maturity/Stability
Mentally
Emotionally
Spiritually and
Financially.

Another angle to consider….

There seem to be more of picture perfect oriented young men and women out there….

Picture Perfect fantasy installed into their systems by excess K-drama, Nollywood, Hollywood
In the word of readiness….

*No one is ever 100% ready
However, the impossibility of being 100% ready does not mean there are qualities that you shouldn’t possess as a man than will make people look at you and see that *this is one is a man

Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall LEAVE his father and his mother and HOLD FAST to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

The number one thing that encompasses all that you stand for as a man is YOUR SENSE OF RESPONSIBILITY”

Trust me, the man described here is not just a man with money, it is a man with a very deep sense of RESPONSIBILITY

Responsibility here is not just about providing for the family or meeting the need. No!!!

Sadly, that is the popular believe and definition of what a responsible man is….

Thinking about it…

I conceptualized it be like this…

You can be *responsibly irresponsible

You can be *irresponsibly responsible

And you can also be *irresponsibly irresponsible as a man
Your sense of Responsibility is not limited to just your ability to make provisions and meet needs….NO!

That is the reason you can even have money and still be irresponsibly irresponsible.
Your sense of responsibility encompasses….and not limited to…
Your reliability as a man

NOTE: Your Problem Solving skills and ability to make things happen with little or no supervision…
Your Communication Skill and sense of respect (talking with respect and treating with love)
How reliable can you get as a man?

How much of reliance can your woman put on you?

Can she be outside and be rest assured that the home is under good care?
Can she always run to you for solutions to problems?

How composed can you get in the face of frustration and rough situations?
Believe me, a man that will LEAVE his Father and his Mother to HOLD FAST to his wife is not a joke

To HOLD FAST is enough on its own….meaning you adhere to that one person against all odds
That is not a task for a baby
Evaluate and re-evaluate yourself as a man and ask yourself those critical questions

Bringing a Woman into your when you are yet to fulfill all the criteria of responsibility is a suicide dear brothers

I have seen men disgraced and embarrassed even with their money
You can buy everything with money
Women are naturally submissive to a man with great sense of responsibility. A man they know have their backs any day any time, a man they are guaranteed that with him, they are secured. He may not have the money in abundance but they are guaranteed that this person won’t let me down at any point…

A man they are sure will come up with solutions when the need arises

That is what defines a responsible man
Being responsible as a man again is knowing your Woman’s weakness and being her strength there

A responsible man doesn’t use his Woman’s weaknesses against her
A Responsible Man covers up for His Woman ALL THE TIME

He doesn’t get tired because he is expected to HOLD FAST unto her

A Responsible Man is always on the lookout for the one he calls his woman. He is always willing and ready to sacrifice

Ephesians 5:25-29: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish

*wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church…”

This is what a responsible man is like
Other religions have their principles but there is no way you will obey and follow the above religiously as man and you will not earn respect, Love and submission from your Woman
If you can fulfil all of the laws of responsibility as a man, you are half way ready to have a woman in your life forever

*A Responsible Man is not authoritative*
And I think that is another place where issues often occur in relationships

We are all still learning and keep learning every day

You don’t need to be authoritative to get your Woman to do things sometimes, you just need to master the art and act of soft and strong through effective communication skills

When a woman discover that you want to start bullying her, she also begins to be stubborn
She begins to wanting to frustrate you intentional with the mindset of *come and do your worse* because that gender has a power of devil deeply anted in them.

They don’t open the door unless you push them

You may even unconsciously push them by just your words because they are Emotional beings
So, you see, it is way beyond just provide and being good on bed.

©Absol ✍🏼